The Rescuer’s Heartache: Traumatic Bonding and Emotional Distress

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Explore the psychology of the rescuer’s heartache. Learn how traumatic bonding and the anterior cingulate cortex drive the painful urge to protect others.

The Rescuer’s Heartache: Traumatic Bonding and Emotional Distress

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wh i feel for her like my heart hurts to see she is still int aht dinamic and when guys gather her and they spead when i get close adn i tell them fuck you. then another girl approaches ehr nad i tell herno. why did i decide to protect her int hat moment. i feel bad idk it hurets my heart. she first came towards me like a magnet, but i was working out then i went by her to the bicicle. but in that minet i judt feel for  her cause her man has always been a dog.

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