The Gap Between Expectation and Reality

30 min

Explore how our reactions to events are shaped not by what happens, but by the gap between reality and our deeply-rooted values and expectations that begin forming in infancy.

The Gap Between Expectation and Reality

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This podcast was created using BeFreed's AI, based on selected books, the creator's learning goals, and their preferred tone.

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The Social Leap
Predictably Irrational
Out of Character
The moral animal
The Blank Slate
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